UNDERSTANDING
EACH OTHER.
Most disagreements are smaller than they look. The work is staying in the room long enough to find out.
Seven free wiki pages on the conversations that don't go well by default. Harvard's negotiation method (the framework that ended Apple-Samsung). Gottman's repair phrases (built on 40 years of relationship research). SCARF threat audits for workplace stakes. Plus the scripts for the conversations nobody enjoys: termination, salary, partner-of-someone-with-RSD.
Every framework is plain-language plus a step-by-step protocol. Cited. Practical. Built for the moment right before you send the message you can't take back.
PICK ONE.
Start with whichever conversation is closest to this week. Each page is free and self-contained.
How to Have a Difficult Conversation
The umbrella OS for hard talks. Five steps that hold when the prefrontal cortex goes quiet.
Read → 03.02SCARF Threat Audit OS
Status, Certainty, Autonomy, Relatedness, Fairness. Five-minute audit. Rock 2008.
Read → 03.03Polyvagal Repair OS
When words don't fix it, the body does. Three steps in order.
Read → 03.04Harvard Method 4-Step OS
The framework that ended Apple-Samsung. Plus BATNA. Fisher and Ury.
Read → 03.05Gottman Repair Phrases OS
The Four Horsemen and their antidotes. Three repair phrases.
Read → 03.06Termination Conversation OS
The hardest conversation. Dignity, clarity, legal precision.
Read → 03.07Salary Negotiation OS
Three scripted frameworks plus five non-salary asks.
Read → 03.08Partner's Guide to RSD
RSD doesn't end at 18. Adult relationship protocol.
Read →DIFFICULT CONVERSATIONS PLAYBOOK
A 100+ page longform guide for the hard talks: feedback, termination, salary, partner-disagreement, family-of-origin. Drafted. Editing now. When it ships, every email on the list gets the link.